The Importance Of Coaching

Alice was in a cosy bar on a Friday evening, tired of her lonely routine. The dim lights and chatter around her offered a welcome distraction. That's when she spotted Joel, a charming guy with a smile that could light up the room.

They hit it off immediately.

Sharing laughs and stories as the hours slipped by. Alice felt a spark she hadn't felt in ages. Joel seemed like the perfect guy – attentive, funny, and oh-so-charming.

But as they spent more time together, Alice began to notice things that didn't sit right. Joel had a habit of talking down about his exes, blaming them for everything. He seemed too comfortable flirting with other women and did not like the idea of a committed monogamous relationship unlike her.

Despite these warning signs, Alice brushed them off. She was lonely and craving love, so she pushed aside her doubts and dove headfirst into the relationship. Her friends tried to warn her, but she shrugged off their concerns. She thought she knew better.

Weeks turned into months, months turned into years and Alice fell deeper for Joel. The deeper she fell for him, the more she invested in him.

But the cracks in their relationship started to show. Joel's behaviour became more erratic, and Alice couldn't shake the feeling that something wasn't right.

In the 3 years they were together, she had had 4 abortions for him and had invested a considerable amount of her finances in his “start-ups” which was always “the next big thing”.

One day, during her usual visit to the hospital during her total bodily health check-up, she discovered that she had contracted HPV from Joel. She was sure it was him because she had never been unfaithful during their time together.

In her emotional high, she confronted him.

She found out he (Joel) had been cheating on her with multiple women, leaving her heartbroken and devastated.

Joel after seeing he had been exposed in a fit of faked rage broke up with her and stormed out.

As if this was not enough she found out that Joel had emptied their joint account. He took everything and disappeared without a trace.

Because pursuing him legally would drain the remaining money Alice had to her name, she concluded that it was not worth it.

Joel left her to pick up the pieces of her shattered life.

Roughly 9 months after her ordeal with Joel, she stumbled upon his wedding pictures with another woman. They already had a child together.

This stirred up feelings in her. Feelings she was trying hard to overcome and move past. Sadly she could not shake the feeling that she was nothing more than a disposable toy to him.

This made her even more depressed and sadly she took her own life 3 weeks later.

So what lessons can you learn from this story?

1. The person you choose to be in a romantic relationship with can either negatively or positively alter the trajectory of your life. Choosing a romantic partner is not just about romance and how you feel. It is much more than that. This then means your ability or inability to vet potential romantic partners properly is the difference between life (Your life going smoothly and positively) or death (Your life getting fucked over in more ways than you can comfortably or realistically count).
You need to equip yourself with the proper vetting skills at each stage of your life. You can do this by learning the skills by yourself or getting taught. BUT YOU NEED TO LEARN THEM.

If you are interested, I’m creating a partner vetting masterclass. It’s a 6-week coaching program where we’d work together to equip you with the right mindset and skills to vet your romantic partner properly. We’d also work together to teach you applicable knowledge to attract the right romantic partner. I’d be making only 3 spots available. If you’re interested you can indicate your interest here.

2. Getting counsel and insights from an unbiased professional can save you a lot of heartache, emotional turmoil and depression. You don’t know what you don’t know. And most times it’s the things you don’t know you don’t know that end up destroying you. The best people from all walks of life hire and retain coaches because they know they cannot look at the bigger picture when they’re within the frames. So they hire coaches to improve, get better and succeed. Get good counsel. It will aid you on your journey to have the romantic relationship you desire.

If you’re interested in working with me on your unique relationship Journey, I have a weekly one-off coaching slot, that I reserve for clients. You can book a session with me here.

P.S.; If you were wondering if it’s a true life story, it is. But the names of the people were changed.

Until next time, bye for now!!!